TIMEs ahead…

contemplations on a beach

contemplation on a beach

If you have followed this blog for a while you may already now that time-management (gotta get most out of life, right!?) – is one of my favorite topics. Although it often is; what you would like to achieve in your time – that gets my attention too, and not just the how.

It is more in my interest as your coach, who you are; rather than what you have… do you have the time to look at your future and think ahead or are you – when you have the time ; truly making authentic decisions…fully expressing who you are when you had time, to reflect and listen to your heart.

As I still tried to focus on ‘business’ in this season, I would like to share my views on  WIN/WIN situations, as although you may know how to manage your time – or yourself for that matter…, but without a clear goal or aim… you still may be able to progress and develop even further, than you already have.

Only through focus can we do world class things, – but what to focus on right!?

Well, for your business I would imagine you want success.

But what means success to you?

Does it happen over night?

Can you truly influence it, authentically – without anyone loosing out?

Let me interject and go on a little tangent for a second: As I am currently in an Arabian country I cannot help but mention the conception of time as touched upon in previous articles (Language of the world).

With the Arabian model and time that of the through- time, your future lies ahead a of you and as time passes you will move forward , whether you like it or not and arrive at a hoped for destination.

Whereby the more european approach is that; you may want to distant yourself a little from you current situation and have the future and past in front of you stretching from the left to the right. You can change your position on this timeline, at anytime when you wish, but sometimes the more European approach helps you to grasp and maybe even influence steps that need to happen on the way.

In order to be successful; it takes great energy and focus to move forward, facing all your fears using  and directing your thoughts consciously, not only removing obstacles, but also working through obstacles.

An underlying paradigm to help you with that; is that of the Win/Win situation. The two main driving forces for this to happen are that of courage and consideration…Should you have the longing to get to a win/win situation, just to escape your current situation; it may only prolong the situation that you are in, but expressing understanding and gratitude to your current situation will help you to move forward.

Now, to visualize a little structure to support your efforts ,I scribbled a little diagram  in the sand ; with the two driving forces of courage and consideration, influencing your progress through the 4 quadrants.

It takes great Courage to express who you truly are or what your business stands for, but with that fulfillment, once achieved – success on all realms will follow.

contemplation on a beach

One of my main focuses in this series of business related articles, is to share my observations as to how business thinking in the contemporary world is changing. It is the general re-evaluation of our own paradigm as business owner or customer that changes the economic landscape that we are living in. It is less and less about the products that we sell with particular thought-out strategies or tactics; and it becomes more and more about the value that your business, service or product is offering.

In my business coaching approach, I tend to look at the value that your are offering (not the financial type) to move forward to a win/win situation for your business endeavor. It is that quadrant (4 in the first pic) in the top right corner that you want to move towards with all the courage and consideration that you have:

The aim is a win/win situation where all parties involved equally benefit. Even in business, we don’t have people to loose to increase your gain!? I would like you to view what ever your business is offering; as a contribution, to others and the world at large,that we live in.

You may find yourself in a Quadrant 1 if there is no consideration or courage to build a business up…a loose/loose situation.

As I am sure if you got as far as reading this you may have something to offer, or you just aren’t too sure who may benefit and why… hang in there.

If you are the courageous kind and have charged ahead with your business and strategies and tactics, but you may have lost sight of who you are offering your services and products too- considering how you truly see the benefit, from your target audience’s perspective.

‘Of course I do!’ I hear you say, but have you spend enough thought and consideration!?

The well-lived life is a conscious life… the same could be said for business.

Another situation you could find yourself in, is that other win and you feel you loose, or maybe even that you are winning but there is a loss to be accounted for; for an opposing party (not just your customers, but maybe your partners, colleagues etc), if their situation isn’t considered and you displayed all the courage there is (going in, all guns blazing!?) , you still may not find yourself in the most effective of situations.

Or starting at point zero, nothing is going to happen ( LOOSE/LOOSE) if you do not get some courage together or do not display consideration for your customer, business partner etc…Equally it is possible to have too much consideration for what you may be able to contribute with your business for somebody else’s advances, and you may not quite have the courage to ask your value back and you will find yourself in a Loose/Win situation.

It may be well worth your time to reconsider your business structure and situation to pick some wholes and re-balance, to make your business congruent, effective, solid and possibly lucrative and successful.

Where are you currently in your business developments ?

What is holding you back to move forward?

Feel free to get in touch for a free, no obligation consultation!



To change direction in Life can be really difficult, especially when desires are there but reason or method, maybe a little slow to follow, or the current of habits, still pull you in the same direction …and make it difficult to change, although direction is clear.

This would be a situation where life coaching could be of help, to give you another perspective on your situation and to help you to understand your Paradigm, the very thing through which you view your world. The reality that your daily life provides you with, through the experiences that you may have had and the conditioning it provided. It can become quite difficult to change direction, like being at sea on a stormy and foggy night.

What we perceive and see is who we are or believe to be – our Paradigms, frame of reference are very powerful but they can shift! This may be a deliberate and slow process or for some it may well be an instantaneous experience, triggered by life events or even just a deep engaging conversation.

But HOW? And how do you know WHAT to change? … I hear you ask.

Well, here is a little story that may shed some light on it:

Two Battleships assigned to training squadron had been at sea in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain of the ship remained on the bridge , keeping an eye on all activities.

Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported: ”Light, bearing on starboard bow”.

”Is it moving steady astern?”, the captain called out.

Lookout replied, ”Steady, captain,”…which ment we were on collision coures with that ship.

The Captain then called to the signalman, ”Signal that ship: We are on collision course, advise to change course by 20 degrees.”

Back came a signal, ”Advisable for you to change course 20 Degrees.”

The Captain said: ” Send, I am a captain, change course 20 Degrees.” – ”I am a seaman second class, still you had better changed your course 20 Degrees.”

By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, ” Send, I’m a battleship. CHANGE course 20 Degrees.”

Back came the flashing light: ” I’m a lighthouse. ”

We changed Course.

Frank Koch ‘Proceedings’

Now, you may not need to be in stormy weathers or stuck in a fog, but maybe things aren’t so plain sailing. And maybe you don’t feel like you are the captain of your ship at all, but an onlooker or someone who is just sending out messages – on other peoples behalf.

It may be that your subjective reality doesn’t serve you any longer, it may be time – where a fresh look at the objective reality may provide you with the answers you are looking for!?

Maybe take some time, this evening or tomorrow morning, 20 minute half an hour is enough; and IDENTIFY (write down) 3 things that aren’t working for you, where you wish that they would be different.

This could be assumed barriers, habitual behaviour, lack of performance etc…. then try to find an alternative way of reacting in these situations, or how you would like things to be…that would INTERRUPT your current pattern…flip it…instead of asking or waiting for others to change course, what could you do!? And you might find that you’ll create a new situation for yourself, when implemented.

And those 20 minutes taken out to reflect and to take time; on looking at your situation, may provide you with the time and space to consider other options… the light ahead of you – may not be the oncoming train, it could also be the end of the tunnel.

If talking things through would help, to get another angle on the whole situation…

… contact me for your FREE CONSULTATION, what can you gain?

Well, what have you got to loose?